I wasn’t expecting to marry a perfect woman. I have decided to be
her father, her boss, her friend, and a teacher. When I was getting
married, I told everyone in my family to go all out and make inquiries
if she is my wife. I consulted about 65 pastors before I made up my mind
on her.”
Who apologises when there is a misunderstanding?
Foluke, the mother of two replied, “I was in a marriage before,
so making amends when there is a wrong is no problem. Most of the time, I
say, ‘I’m sorry,’ it does not cost anything to apologise. If not given,
it can degenerate to anything. Fortunately, he does not suffer from
inferiority complex. The kind of upbringing I have is contentment and
love. I want to have my husband, children and run my home. When we were
about getting married, my father-in-law was skeptical and some of his
siblings. I made everybody realise that acting is a profession, which I
happen to find myself.”
Kayode said, “Foluke is stubbornly reasonable but quick to accept
her fault. She kneels down and apologises and sometimes, sheds tears to
show she is indeed sorry. I love her very much, she is like my baby and
I don’t fail to tell her when she is wrong. Our quarrel doesn’t last an
hour. We are not in this marriage by accident but by the will of God.”
So, what makes a marriage successful?
Kayode tendered, “Maintain that channel of
communication. Discuss it all because when you don’t tell her she might
not know. Secondly, understand each other. Know your wife and who she
is. You must also be friends. Also, a man should learn to overlook
especially if you are married to a celebrity. I read a book where a
writer said nothing is a problem, only thinking makes it so. If you
attach meanings to every issue, marriage heads for the rocks. Not all
the time should you overlook but when you want to make a complaint let
it be in the confines of your bedroom. Let the man be mentally mature
too and be confident in himself. Also, learn to share. A man should not
allow his wife do all the chores and he wants to share her money with
her, it fails. She is not your slave, she is a human being that deserves
happiness.”
Foluke said, “The woman is motivated by what she
hears and the man, what he sees. Women make the mistake of not spicing
up their marriage. What are those things that attracted him to you?
Then, don’t stop. He loves my legs and I wear short skirts at home for
him. You have to put your man on his toes. Read books and know what
excite your marriage. Also, men don’t tell their wives ‘I love you.’ Pay
her compliments. I wash his undies, cook special diet. In fact, celebs
go the extra mile to make a marriage work. We try to pamper, make men
feel special and want homes. We need confident men. Take care of your
man. Say, ‘I love you’. My husband tells me every morning, ‘I love you.’
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